“In the same way, the tongue is a small member and yet has great pretensions. Consider how a small fire can set a huge forest ablaze, the tongue is also a fire.” James 3: 5-6
When I read this scripture, it was so relative to the actions of today; it calls out today’s word of hatred, anger, hostility, and much, much more. I say this, not to anger any of those who read this, on any of my feelings, but to really think about words. Think about what they mean, what the intent about saying those words really mean, think about the soul that says these words. I’ll repeat a phrase that I saw, that can teach a tongue to remain calm, and be not even an ash:
I saw something that I think is wonderful: It’s called “Before you speak, THINK”.
T = IS IT TRUE?
H= IS IT HELPFUL?
I = IS IT INSPIRING?
N = IS IT NECESSARY?
K =IS IT KIND?
Obviously, this doesn’t calm society down right now, but it can be a start. I propose that whoever this, read this at least FIVE times, and let it soak in. It’s important that one should understand that words are permanent, they’ll never disappear from someone’s mind. THAT is so important!
As some of you know, I haven’t written anything for a while; I didn’t have “words”. When I read articles of today, I feel my blood get hot, I want to respond, but I look at the defining words of “THINK”, (Which I have in front of my face when I’m at my desk), I want to remain positive in my thoughts, and the words to follow; and my response would certainly NOT have been “TRUE”, (the first “T”), it would be an emotional opinion, which is not a dialogue; it becomes a war to win a debate, rather than a dialogue. That then becomes NOT “Helpful”. What then, is the point of the conversation? Is there a point to have these kinds of “conversations”? There have been several separation of friends, some of these with many years of friendship with these types of conversations, and I am speaking of some of my friends who distanced themselves from me. The reason I mentioned this, is I am fully invested in friendship. I’m ok with someone who wants to keep a distance, but from a conversation(s); REALLY???
What I’ve noticed, is that our “friendly” social network, our neighborhood website, and others have become so, so sad, such ANGRY words, and also words of HATE.
HATE: v.; to dislike intensely; to feel extreme aversion for or extreme hostility toward: detest.
WOW. That’s heavy. I have had friends on our wonderful social media, (again), spilling out angry, hateful words; mostly political, emotional opinions, and that goes, where? I know that we all have opinions, we’re humans, I get it; but to end a friendship because we have a different view on things. If I remember somewhat not so distant ago, this didn’t happen 10-15 years ago, it is very incomprehensible to me right now. This might go nowhere, but I do ask all of you who wish to put your not so sweet thoughts out there, to go in a different route out there, How about the “I” in THINK, to Inspire? Anything that you have, because we all have something inspiring, throw it out there! Trust me, it will be so motivating to see something “inspiring”, and trust me on this, you will feel so clean in your heart! That ugly feeling in your gut won’t be there, please trust that! I rely on my faith to help me through this time, and I know I’m not alone here. Trust in your positive beliefs, trust in what is kind for you. It’s all about knowing that we, all of us, can’t change anything with angry words, so let’s inspire others. Hop on this train!!!
FYI, I have had a few of those reply thoughts in my mind, but I’m so glad that I didn’t give that type of reply, because really, what’s the point? Really, WHAT IS THE POINT??? What does that heated anger get someone? Either another reply like wise, or heaven forbid, a contrasting reply that instigates reply after reply after reply. Again, what is the point? Nothing changed, no one won the “argument”, the item discussed didn’t change; I hope that I didn’t go to far, stating something like this, but the last thing I’d like to ask, is it “KIND”? Isn’t that word beautiful? I mean it’s just cool, when it’s KIND. ( I just love that phrase, I’ll register it!). I’ll say it again, it’s cool when it’s KIND!
For those who might not have some sort of scripture reference, I’ll give you a definition of the WORD:
“In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God” John 1:1
When you’re on social media, and you want to make a statement, or reply to one, “THINK”; motivate someone, inspire someone, be kind to someone, (it’s really cool to be Kind!) , be Necessary to someone, and be True to your positive soul, and enjoy the WORD!!!
Such inspirational and much needed words
You always have a way to get us to slow down and take a step back! And, THINK.
Scott – was hoping to get in touch with you. I am a 24 year old female and I just had a grade 2 meningioma removed. Hoping to get some insight on how your life is going post radiation and why you and Dr. Yang chose to go that route. Your story offers me a lot of hope. I would love to hear your thoughts on what diet your following and again, WHY radiation – my doctors all seem to say it’s 50/50 but it seems as though you’ve been just fine for 10 years post-radiation so I’d love to hear more.
I feel blessed to have found your page! Best to you!
I would love to get in touch with you; I have spent a lot of time with Dr. Yang, with lecturing in his class that he teaches, along with fundraises. I have spent the ;past 10 years volunteering my time at UCLA, in the neurological trauma floor, so speaking to you would be a pleasure. Visit my website to get my number, http://www.playapersonaltraining.com
Scott Randall Yonkouski
You wrote a comment to me on 9/30/2020, and I always try to have a conversation with those whos situation parallel mine. If you would like to speak, my number is (310) 989-4997. I hope time has been kind to you on your recovery, reply to me on any questions, concerns, or successes!