“In the same way, the tongue is a small member and yet has great pretensions.  Consider how a small fire can set a huge forest ablaze, the tongue is also a fire.”  James 3: 5-6

When I read this scripture, it was so relative to the actions of today; it calls out today’s word of hatred, anger, hostility, and much, much more.  I say this, not to anger any of those who read this, on any of my feelings, but to really think about words.  Think about what they mean, what the intent about saying those words really mean, think about the soul that says these words. I’ll repeat a phrase that I saw, that  can teach a tongue to remain calm, and be not even an ash:


I saw something that I think is wonderful:  It’s called “Before you speak, THINK”.







Obviously, this doesn’t calm society down right now, but it can be a start.  I propose that whoever this, read this at least FIVE times, and let it soak in.  It’s important that one should understand that words are permanent, they’ll never disappear from someone’s mind.  THAT is so important!


As some of you know, I haven’t written anything for a while; I didn’t have “words”.  When I read articles of today, I feel my blood get hot, I want to respond, but I look at the defining words of “THINK”, (Which I have in front of my face when I’m at my desk),  I want to remain positive in my thoughts, and the words to follow; and my response would  certainly NOT have been “TRUE”, (the first “T”), it would be an emotional opinion, which is not a dialogue; it becomes a war to win a debate, rather than a dialogue.  That then becomes NOT “Helpful”.  What then, is the point of the conversation?  Is there a point to have these kinds of “conversations”?  There have been several separation of friends, some of these with many years of friendship with these types of conversations, and I am speaking of some of my friends who distanced themselves from me.  The reason I mentioned this, is I am fully invested in friendship.  I’m ok with someone who wants to keep a distance, but from a conversation(s); REALLY???


What I’ve noticed, is that our “friendly” social network, our neighborhood website, and others have become so, so sad, such ANGRY words, and also words of HATE.

HATE:  v.; to dislike intensely; to feel extreme aversion for or extreme hostility toward: detest.


WOW. That’s heavy.  I have had friends on our wonderful social media, (again),  spilling out angry, hateful words; mostly political, emotional opinions, and that goes, where?  I know that we all have opinions, we’re humans, I get it; but to end a friendship because we have a different view on things.  If I remember somewhat not so distant ago, this didn’t happen 10-15 years ago, it is very incomprehensible to me right now.  This might go nowhere, but I do ask all of you who wish to put your not so sweet thoughts out there, to go in a different route out there,  How about the “I” in THINK, to Inspire?  Anything that you have, because we all have something inspiring, throw it out there!  Trust me, it will be so motivating to see something “inspiring”, and trust me on this,  you will feel so clean in your heart! That ugly feeling in your gut won’t be there, please trust that!  I rely on my faith to help me through this time, and I know I’m not alone here.  Trust in your positive beliefs, trust in what is kind for you.  It’s all about knowing that we, all of us, can’t change anything with angry words, so let’s inspire others.  Hop on this train!!!

FYI, I have had a few of those reply thoughts in my mind, but I’m so glad that I didn’t give that type of reply, because really, what’s the point?  Really, WHAT IS THE POINT???  What does that heated anger get someone?  Either another reply like wise, or heaven forbid, a contrasting reply that instigates reply after reply after reply.  Again, what is the point?  Nothing changed, no one won the “argument”, the item discussed didn’t change; I hope that I didn’t go to far, stating something like this, but the last thing I’d like to ask, is it “KIND”?  Isn’t that word beautiful?  I mean it’s just cool, when it’s KIND.  ( I just love that phrase, I’ll register it!).  I’ll say it again, it’s cool when it’s KIND!

For those who might not have some sort of scripture reference, I’ll give you a definition of the WORD:

“In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God”  John 1:1

When you’re on social media, and you want to make a statement, or reply to one, “THINK”; motivate someone, inspire someone, be kind to someone, (it’s really cool to be Kind!) , be Necessary to someone, and be True to your positive soul, and enjoy the WORD!!!






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When I wrote my last blog, it was about the positive coming out of the quarantine era.  It seems to me now, that some differ from that, and that’s too bad.  In our world, times should be “of the moment”, with appreciation of what’s been given to us, to all of us, as we look for answers; mine is my belief in God.  I try to move forward, with an attempt to do good for others. and volunteer my services to those who need support in hospitals, in my neighborhood, and wherever else I see a need.  I see no need for skin color to be a concern to me.  We are all born with a journey ahead of us, and we are taught what God has given us.  Unfortunately, recently there has been a mass of people who have strayed from the church, especially those with young children.  This is a problem with keeping one’s faith, to NOT having history OF faith.  We, (our country),  have gotten do so much political correctness with all of our beliefs, that some can’t even express our beliefs to others, for fear of being something of a ***ist, whatever that means.  It’s a terrible thing when people use their emotional opinions to converse, to “win” a conversation, rather than having a talk, as friends who maybe disagree; wasn’t like that 10 or so years ago.

It’s sad, as people who had friends for 15, 20, 25 years, suddenly dismiss that friendship, due to political, and other beliefs.  Is harsh feelings the way to find peace?  Is hatred talk the way to converse?

I did a viral recently, (on YouTube), describing how we can adapt to our situation of the virus, and staying home, and renewing our religious faith with the time that we had with our quarantine restrictions.  I found it necessary for all of us to use that “moment to moment” time, to look at what we can do with this new “change” that will be here for awhile.  It’s not going away, but it also means that we can adapt to it, and make it useful in our lives, and our faith.  As I mentioned in my last blog, I saw many wonderful things come out of that time.  And then things changed.  A tragic event occurred, and so did many harsh feelings, much harsh language, and events that did nothing but cause hatred.  I think that many emotions opinions took the place of conversation, and I hope that people start to look at those that  lost a friend, a business, a soul.  We are better than that.  Our hearts are better than that,  Our faith is better than that.  Peace doesn’t just happen, it has to be committed to, to be worked on, but only with open eyes, and an open heart.  Talk, observe, listen to others, be kind, be helpful, and try to be necessary for someone.  We can get through this, but we have to stay open.

Many police have been in altercations, some have died in the last few weeks, and why?  For the ONE bad apple, (which I think is tragic!), police , (and 1st responders), have become targets; a policeman breaking up a fight in Las Vegas during a “demonstration” and point blank getting shot in the back of his head, Santa Cruz ambush that killed a policeman, New York same thing.  Not a lot of thinking about this. Intentions should be calmer.


I’m going to include a script that I hope lifts up our thoughts.  It means that we are ALL sinners, which we know, but that if we encourage a word like repent, which means “go beyond the mind that you have”,  meaning minds, eyes, ears, senses, perceptions, all have to be opened up and be revitalized.  It means to have forgiveness, and to be righteous.  We have all sinned, but let’s try to change that; we ask and we shall receive.

“Remind the people to respect the government and be law-abiding, always ready to lend a helping hand. No insults, no fights. God’s people should be bighearted and courteous.

It wasn’t so long ago that we ourselves were stupid and stubborn, dupes of sin, ordered every which way by our glands, going around with a chip on our shoulder, hated and hating back.

But when God, our kind and loving Savior God, stepped in, he saved us from all that. It was all his doing; we had nothing to do with it. He gave us a good bath, and we came out of it new people, washed inside and out by the Holy Spirit. Our Savior Jesus poured out new life so generously. God’s gift has restored our relationship with him and given us back our lives. And there’s more life to come–an eternity of life!”

Titus 3:1-7 The Message


I sincerely hope that we all remain well, and that we all can have our friendships remain, and express your faith with good intentions.

Let’s all be lives of goodness,




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I’ve witnessed a lot these past 6 or more weeks, as I’m sure most other people would say the same.  As an addition to that, I would also include a change to my perceptions of what I witnessed, as I think most others would agree.


Witness: v., to see, hear, or know by personal presence and perception


I used to refer to this time frame that we’re in as “strange times”, and it was strange times, because it was something that was out of our control; meaning there was no solution when “times” needed to be changed.  It really meant that we, as a society, needed to adapt our personnel life, the awareness around us, our financial business, our family being, etc…everything had to be “changed”.


Change: n., The act or instance of making or becoming different


I remember when I was just out of college, 21-22 years old.  I lived in Peoria, Illinois.  My ambition, at that age, was to “get out of town!”, north, south, east, or west, didn’t matter!  So I had an opportunity to come to SoCal, Santa Barbara to be exact.  My parents next door neighbors were moving their business out here, and he had several cars for his business, and asked me to drive one out here; best news, “I’ll pay everything, out here and back.”.  Took me about, uhm, ONE second to say YES, and so I contacted a friend from grade school,  stayed in his place for about 4-5 weeks in Santa Barbara, and thought well, I wanted to get out of Peoria, so here I am in California, let’s look for a job, since I just got out of college with an Engineering degree.  Now, it’s 1981, (WOW!), defense budgets were huge, and I got an offer on my first interview at Hughes Aircraft, Rader Division; no exaggeration at all, the interview took no longer than 5 minutes, they just needed people.  I took the job, went back to Peoria for my clothes, car, and that was about it.  As I was at my parents, I sat there with my mom, and said I didn’t know if I made the right decision; my family, friends, relatives, everyone who meant anything to me, was in Peoria.  Could I make this “change” in my life?  It would be a total different “change” to me and what I know?  To my surprise, my mom said that I should go, try it out; I could always come back home.  So I did.  The first day I made it out here, I said to myself  that that “change”, really wasn’t that big of a deal.  It was a little different, but I adapted.  Almost forty years, I guess I adapted well.


All of this leads up to our “stay at home” restrictions.  When we all first heard this, were our feelings something like, WHAAAAAAAT, NO WAY; WHAT AM I GOING TO DO????

And then things start to settle in; because I work at home, with my fitness studio in my garage, staying at home wasn’t that big of a deal to me.  I walk my dog about 3 times a day, and you always see the same people walking the same dog, and you strike up a conversation, and it’s really very nice; but now I’m not just seeing that ONE  dog walking person, I’m seeing the whole family walking the dog, talking, and maybe the young toddler has the lease in their hands, with papa right with them.  I’m seeing mom and dad riding their bikes on the side streets with their kids.  I’m seeing groups of moms with their masks, walking together as a group.  I’m seeing people going around the neighborhood, asking others if they need any help, especially to the elderly friends.  After a few weeks, I see people starting to accept this new “change”; they are gathering within ones driveway, 10-12 feet away, having a beer together.  I can go on and on, but the point here is that people adapted, they changed.  Will it stay like that?  No answers on that,  but I see a lot of people staying at home working, and will this scenario stay the same?  No answer on that, but it sure does make traffic seem like a ghost town!  I personally, would love to see traffic stay this way.  Will it stay this way?  That’s one that I can safely say, probably not! (DAAAAAANG!).  I also know that there are some people whose work just stopped, and believe me, I hurt for them.  That’s the rough part, and the only thing that I can say to someone like that, is I don’t have THE answer, but I can tell you of what I had to do, because I work one-on-one with people, and I can’t do that, at this moment.  We just have to be creative, or go with our strengths, or modify your business.  I also know that restaurants can only only do take-outs, suspending a lot of personnel, bartenders, and so on; I don’t have an answer.  My story: but I had to start to go with an idea that I had 3-4 years ago, but just didn’t push the “start” button; video training.  I do it in real time now, but that led me on a path, that I might be able to expand; I also started to walk off site from my studio with clients, around the side streets doing exercises, carrying exercise straps with a few clients, at least 6 ft. from them, doing push-ups, squats, lunges,(forward/reversed lunges/walking lunges…), for some, pull ups from tree limbs, (if they can); anything that can be done in a gym, can be duplicated outside, or at least a varying of an exercise.  It’s what I know, (my strength).  For me, that’s what worked, and I highly recommend that you all should try something that, trust yourself, be creative; and be kind.  I have also seen a lot of that, now that we’re all in this together.


The biggest thing that I might add, that this “change” will level out, and come to an end.  My mind also believes that everything WON’T go back to what it was; it will be what it will be, and we change our life to it.  We, from our personnel self, to us as a society, have always had peaks and valleys; we might be at the bottom of the valley right now, but we will start up that peak very soon.  I’m writing this now, because I’m seeing so much positive changes going on, so much kindness going on, so many families spending SO much time as family time, so much spiritually-oriented time being changed, people tuning into church, masses from their own diocese, or others that might be a distance from them, but had interest in that parish, services, lectures, support groups if needed.  I’m seeing so much goodness, and I have high hopes that when things start to become our natural state of affairs, that we stay in this positive frame of mind.  Smile, say hi to a stranger, wave, sometimes we don’t know who it is wearing a mask, but hey, that was fun waving to whoever!  Think about your heart opening up to let kindness from others fill that ol’ heart up!  Maybe I’m a little optimist here, but I feel like people are not only trying to “get through this”, I but also realizing that change is ok, actually GOOD, and maybe those changes that others have operated on this past few months, were good, and have presented  themselves in such a way, that they’ll use them as our peak starts to appear.  I wish everyone so much good wishes, hugs, love, and calm.

God bless you,






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DO UNTO OTHERS…(and yourself)

There will be several answers here, but who would you say was the greatest NFL coach?  If that’s too much, let’s give you some consideration, and you can name the top three.  Anyone want to disagree with Vince Lombardi?  If I remember, isn’t there a trophy, the Vince Lombardi Trophy?  I’m a little biased here, (even though I’m a Chicago Bears fan!), but this man tells us, especially in sports, the meaning of commitment.  It’s your word, to yourself, or many others if you belong to a team, of commitment, to be your best.  This man talked not only of being your best on the playing field, but outside the stadium.  He really remains one of the most notable sports figures of all time, but despite his success, he never lost sight of his purpose in life.  First of all, he was a very religious man; he went to daily mass, and received Communion every day.  Just giving you info about him, and his thinking.  He once said,

“After all the cheers have died down and the stadium is empty, after the headlines have been written, and after you are back in the quiet of your room and the championship ring has been placed on the dresser, and after all the pomp and fanfare have faded, the enduring thing that is left is the dedication to doing with our lives the very best we can to make the world a better place in which to live.”  Vince Lombardi.

To me, that sums it up.  Live your life, better yet, live your life for someone else, every day, every hour, every second; moment-to-moment!  So many times we go through life multi-tasking, and NEVER noticing what has been giving to us.  Whether you’re walking down the street and the beauty of the trees, or you’re driving and thinking about the rest of your day, it would seem that one would some how miss a miracle that could be happening, right in front of them.  Did you ever appreciate the beauty of silence, only silence?  I’m guilty if I said I do all of the time, but when I focus on just enjoying that second, or even a minute, it really is beautiful.  This is Mr. Lombardi teaching, to give to another a commitment of your time, and kindness to make their day, a better day.  You are outside the stadium, you are trying to make the world a better place to live.  It’s a beautiful way to think, so why don’t we ALWAYS try to think that way?  For those that go to church every Sunday, try to live that peaceful space from your heart throughout your day, when you drive out of the church parking lot, instead of reacting to the car that just cut in front you, and you might have had to apply your breaks.  Maybe just thank God that you’re still safe, you made the world a better place.

If you remember, there was a high school student, Kendrick Castillo who was a very kind, religious student, the perfect young adult.  He was involved in the Denver shooting last May, a gunman started shooting, and as he charged the gunman, he was shot, and passed away.  Yes, this is tragic; yes, he lost his life; yes, his parents do not have him any longer.  I absolutely think, though, that he gave his life for his friends, and any other student, teachers; he made the world a better place.  At the end of the day, was his thinking right, or not so right.  No answer to that, but he lived in the moment, and reacted to saving other peoples lives, and to me, there is no other greater deed, than to think of others at all times.  His parents used this as a picture of well being, and their response was, at a honor for him, “Kendrick would go out of his way-nothing was more important than helping someone else, he did something what we should be doing, we gather here as a community to learn the lessons of love, but when we exit the doors, it(love),  should never stop, and Kendrick figured it out.  If he can be the new light to bring people out of darkness, to let them know that there’s hope and to live their lives differently, get involved, I think that’s a good thing; we need someone like that, and he was that person.”

That, to me, is a saint; who gave his life, to save others.  So do we all have to be in that situation, to be thought of in that way?  I don’t think so, but I DO think we should be very kind to other people, help other people, even help someone without them knowing it was you who helped them, because your kindness doesn’t have to be “on show” to others.

Next week, in the Catholic church, Lent starts.  I not trying to preach to anyone about my religion, but why don’t you join me in the way that I’m honoring my beliefs?  Instead of “giving something up” for Lent, (40 days), why not give to someone, help in any way that they might need help.  Picking up their trash, throwing their newspaper that’s laying at the curb, and bringing it up to their door, simple stuff.  You would be making the world a better place to live.  Here is one thing that I can, and will guarantee; you will feel SO much better, so much more peace than before.  Guess what?  You will find out that this is the easy part, that took maybe about 30 seconds!  If someone needs a ride, give them one if you have the time, or just offer them your time, and that will clear a head from everything that went wrong that day, into a place of peacefulness.  You’re helping someone, and making the world a better place.  You will find that this is not a chore, but enjoyable.  I will be open to anyone who asks about my day throughout Lent, how about you? Join me, I’m serious when I say that your heart will jump to another beat!  Join me, help someone, make this world a better place.




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Smiling is contagious.  I think that we all know that, and what could be more inspiring than a smiling face?  This could be an obvious act, but there are some who don’t have that attitude of bringing a smile back to them, by throwing out a smile, even if it’s just a little one.  Being your honest, supportive, meaningful, inspiring, lively, expressive self could be the one of the best attitudes that you throw out to other people, because it shows that you care, not only for them at that moment, but for everyone in you company.


S – Is it supportive?

M-Is it meaningful?

I- Is it inspiring?

L -Is it lively?

E -Is it expressive?


Is it Supportive?

I’ve found out that the more a person smiles, whether he knows a person that he passes, or not, brings about an attitude of confidence, and people like confidence.  Smiles present that.  If you have a personal friend who is not physically feeling well, an honest smile is our S; A SUPPORTIVE smile, and that goes a long way towards bringing a ray of hope to someone outlook.  I remember when I was in the hospital after one of my tumor surgeries, and my dad was sitting in a chair by my bed; he doesn’t say to much, but having him there, with his hand lying across my arm, and him giving me a little smile, made all the world of peacefulness to me, and basically no words were used.  It was very touching, just a small, little smile.  People understand what you are trying to say, sometimes without words.  Smile.  Be Supportive, and it could easily bring a smile back to you!


Is it Meaningful?

I think we all know if a smile is honest, and meaningful, rather than one that might be sneering at you.  We know what that is about, and really, why put that energy out there?  It does no one any good.  Being meaningful simply means that you care, and maybe even lending a hand to a chore, or that you feel good, and you want to lighten some else’s day!  How about something so simple as a smile, and say “HELLO”!  One word!  To some people, that could be their word of their day.  By doing some of the things that I do at the UCLA Ronald Regan Hospital, I have to be very observant to a patient, or the support group that might be in that room.  I try to be in THEIR shoes for about 5 seconds, and see what their seeing.  I give a smile, to show that I care, and I mean really care, because I’ve been in that bed before, and if I feel compassion from that a person coming into a room, it really could be my moment of the day; short and sweet. Being honest to someone, is actually being meaningful, and that can sink into someone’s heart.  Be Meaningful!


Is it Inspiring?

Inspiring is so important.  One smile, one gracious smile, could turn someone’s around for the day.  We’ve all had days where, well, things just aren’t going the way we planned, and someone comes along, tells an inspiring story, (with a smile, of course!), and sometimes things just turn around, just by a smile.  Being personal to someone, showing that you care, even for a second, can easily put a smile their face, or put peace on their forehead. It can be that simple, and I’m sure we’ve all seen that happen.  Be inspiring, and you’ve lifted someone’s day!


Is it Lively?

Lively is a strong word.  You have heart, and maybe you’re trying to share it.  That could be the coolest thing ever, to try and share your excitement with a person, to show how you feel right now, in that moment.  I think people want to share in happiness, whether it be for them, or for another person.  Lively, and happiness are contagious, and that certainly can go into another’s heart.  Again, it’s very simple; being honest, meaningful, supportive, and inspiring, shows another person that you really care enough in your heart, enough that you have so much more to share!  Put out that big smile, and let people know that you have enough to share, enough to smile back, and I think they will.


Is it Expressive?

It might seem like you’re under pressure with this word, expressive, but it really means “just be yourself”.  Honesty always comes through, and so does trying to be “expressive”.  It doesn’t mean that you have to be so outgoing, or beyond what you really are.  If you’re soft spoken, good for you!  A little smile comes out of you, even bigger than most people would suspect!  As you are expressive in your nature, it can affect someone, maybe without either one of you knowing!  One time I was, again, at the hospital, in the cafeteria, and a young lady came up to me, and asked me if I remember her, and qualified herself, by saying that it had been a few years ago when we talked; she was a patient, and was on a  returning visit.  To be honest, I didn’t remember talking to her; because I do see a number of people in the hospital, and after a few years, well, I just don’t have that big brain anymore!  I asked her what we talked about, and she basically responded that we just talked.  Now, that’s what I mean when I said to be expressive, in your own honest, expressive way.  No act, just honest; and that shows caring, and that caring leads itself to sticking into someone’s soul, that they remember something that was just conversation, but so meaningful to them.  So be Expressive!  Be yourself!  Be much more, by only bringing a smile!


Bringing happiness to someone else, just be being “you”, what could be better?  All of this means is that you have to be happy inside, yourself; and that happiness will always comes out, and you don’t have to anything but show up, (with that smile, of course!).

Have a great day!











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WARRIOR:  n.  a person who has shown great vigor, or courage


This really is the word that describes the attendees at the “Heroes of Hope” 5k/10k Race for Research.  With all of the proceeds going back to UCLA, Cedars-Sinai, and Children’s Hospital Los Angeles brain tumor research departments for cancer termination, this event was full of Warriors today.  This was a day filled with plenty of emotions, joys, and remembrance.  When you’ve seen people who are survivors of brain cancer, surgeons who had operated on these survivors, friends of these survivors, and families of these survivors, it hits you, hard.  It happened to me.  I’ve been associated with this organization, The Brad Kaminsky Foundation; and every year that this event comes upon us, (usually around Veterans Day),  I thank God for being here today.  This event is full of Warriors.  From the survivors, to the teams who are supporting a person who is fighting a brain tumor, to those who are commemorating someone who courageously fought this tragic brain tumor with so much vigor, it reminds you of the effort that we all have put our passion into; to help these three institutions to elevate their efforts for brain cancer.


When I see someone, especially women, and I see a beautiful scarf around their beautiful bald head, I ALWAYS approach them, and ask them if they would like to tell their story, because there is one.  I’ve had people do that to me, when they see my wonderful scar on my head, and we have a great conversation.  The point is: I’m so glad when I get asked, because I know that I’m not the only one.  That’s why I’ll approach someone, with a smile for them, and ask if they would like to talk.  Very simple.  It’s so pleasing to them, and me, because we all know that there are a lot of us out there in our world, and we sure do love the hope that another person gives us.


At our event today, there is a teenager named Joey.  Joey told me today that he is 13 years old.  Two years ago at age 11, Joey had a bald head, going through chemotherapy, and last year, he had a full head of hair.  Today he looked a little tired, and I found out that he is going through cycles of chemo again, week by week for the next year.  I had to hold my emotions in, such a great family supporting him, and Joey had so much vigor!  Such a great attitude, like he’s telling all of us to fight, and I mean fight!  We are all one, and we all fight together!  I saw Veronica this year, and she was in a wheelchair, last year she didn’t need to have that wheelchair, but she had that same attitude; fight, fight, fight!!! Although she was in her chair, we did pictures at the end of the two racing events, (5k/10k), so her parents brought her over to the stage where we all stood on top of the stage, which was about one foot above the ground.  She wanted to come up, and she did!  She did it, with a little help from other people, but she did it; she just had that look, “I’m going up there!”, and she did.  Again, I choked up.  Most of you know my story, but when I see those warriors out there, who are dealing with situations more demanding than mine, I applaud them, I hug them, I love them.  We ARE all together, and we support each other, and we appreciate every effort for any and all of those that donate to our cause, run for our cause, walk for our cause, and give hugs for our cause.  It’s a cause that I’m in, for the rest of my life, and I’m pretty sure that I can speak for the other warriors out there, they think the same way of appreciating all of the efforts to help our cause.


Lisa Kaminsky Millar started this organization, a 501(c)3, and gives everything that she has committing to this one event, all year long.  She started this foundation, after her brother, Brad, fought courageously throughout his tumor on his brain.  I believe he looks upon what we are doing, in his cause, because Lisa has carried on this event for 12 years, including today, and another for next year, to help others so that they have a warrior at their side to help them fight, and also win the fight with brain cancer!  It was also announced today, that for the end of this years time frame, donations will still be accepted for this organization: www.wizathon.com/heoresofhoperace.


I think that we all have a story, many being different from brain tumors, but the actions, and attitude remain the same.  Hug someone, converse with whoever needs that conversation, try not to judge someone, maybe just try to look from their eyes for about 10 seconds, and give them a smile.  It will mean SO much to them.  When I was in the hospital recently, with my hip replacement, and as some of you know, I volunteer at UCLA by speaking to other neurological trauma patients; so a friend that I work for at UCLA, comes into my room, to my surprise, spends literally about one minute coming to my room to visit, and had to leave because of his schedule, but that one minute meant the world to me.  The attentiveness that was given to me, very unexpectedly, was all that I needed at that moment. That’s all you need, to become a warrior.  You don’t have to have an event to work at, or a long day to comfort someone, (although if you can, do it!), but just a kind word, a hug, a smile, can mean you really ARE a warrior!  There’s a scripture that I’d like to  mention:

“So not forget to entertain strangers, for by so doing some people have entertained angels without knowing it.”   Hebrews 13: 2

So go ahead, be that warrior, and you will definitely be an angel to someone when they need it.




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Do You Want To Be a HERO???

Life is grand, don’t you think?  Every day I wake up, I have to thank God for ONE more day; EVERY DAY!  One day, I was in a great conversation about a lot of different things, and I mentioned that, and I was asked, “Do you really do that EVERY day?”.  Umm, yes; and by doing that,  it shows so much Thanksgiving to really have another day.  I’ll recap what a lot of you know about me.  I’ve had three brain tumors, (Meningiomas, Type 2, Atypical).  I’ve taken pretty good care of my physical being, for most of my adult years, having my business for over 35 years in doing so, ( well, as you know ,too, I do enjoy a few beers!).  I think that I did a pretty great job, at my job, but I still was the recipient of three brain tumors.  I watched my diet, (ok, a sweet desert once in a while),  but my philosophy still is, 75%-80% eating strict, and 20%-25% vice.  That’s a livable life, but I got three brain tumors.  My training regime, since I was in high school, has always been 5-6 days of training, but I still got three tumors.  I still have that training schedule, and I still thank God EVERY day for giving me one more day.


Why am I saying stuff that most of you know about me?  There’s an event this November, 11/17/19, called “Heroes of Hope, Race for Research”.  It is a 5k/10k walk/run event for brain tumor research, and as most of you know, I’m very passion about anything that affects the brain.  This event is being held at Dockweiler Beach, in Playa del Rey, Ca., which would be where I live.  It’s a beautiful run/walk beside the beach, and proceeds go back to UCLA for brain tumor research, and to Children’s Hospital Los Angeles for research for these wonderful children of childhood cancer.  I’ve been involved in this event for four years now, included this year.  This will be the 12th running of this event, and in the previous 11, the proceeds exceed $800,00,00!  If you’ll excuse my language, piss on cancer, piss on brain tumors, anything neurological with the brain, piss on you!  It’s not that I’m so upset about what I’ve been through to feel like this, but I don’t want others to go through what I went through.  That’s why I do a lot of my hours up at UCLA neurological trauma hospital ward at Ronald Regan UCLA Hospital, speaking to people, (some would call them patients, but they ARE people).  I know what’s going through their heads; frustration, anxiety, doubts, personal agenda…  and maybe I don’t know the percentages of each of those, but I definitely know a little bit of each, and I try to be a little compassionate to their day.  It means so much to them, when I walk into a person’s room, introduce myself, and if it’s appropriate, inform them of my situation, and especially if we have the same surgeon, they generally have an interest in me, and my story. I rehabbed myself after my surgeries, (because that’s my business), and they really want to inquire about that topic, even more so to their support people who might be in their room, so that they can help our person, after leaving the hospital.  If I see a Bible in their room, we’ll probably have a conversation in their spiritual beliefs.  As you can see, it’s all about caring, caring about something that we are all so passion about.


So many of UCLA doctors, nurses, administrative persons, the L.A. Sheriff Dept. sends at least 20 or more of their time and donations, people who are ridden with brain cancer have teams set up, they have a canopy/table to explain their sons/daughters/husbands/wives situation; these stories can go on, and on.  As each year goes on, some of those that were here last year, have passed.  Two years ago, I met the team of Team Joey, (Joey was maybe 12, maybe 13, I really don’t know exactly), Joey had a bald head, and was going through chemo.  Last year, Joey had a full head of hair!  Talk about emotional!.. Stories go on and on, as I said before.  Bottom line, all kinds of emotions are getting their fill to others’ situations.  All kinds of outside venders are at the camp, different types of water, electrolytes drinks, food trucks, energy bars, different teams, UCLA booth; let’s just say that all kinds of different businesses are there, also.  It’s fun, it’s emotional, it’s exciting, and with all of that, there is some humor that is presented.  I’m writing this, because I’m also looking for money!  Each entry is $40.00, and different teams can be set up, with sponsor opportunities available with the amount of money that your team would like to contribute, from $100.00, to $5,000.00, or more.  As I said before, over $800,000.00 has been raised, and a lot of people have donated so much of their time, and passion, for funds to stimulate research for brain tumors.  I would love to have so many of you that I know donate, show up, and you don’t even have to run if you don’t want to!  There is also a kids/toddler run, so they can feel like they contributed to saving someone’s life, and guess what?  They did!!!


Contact me if you would like to be a part of this wonderful event, or do a donation if you are not in this area.  For more info, contact www. wizathon.com/heroesofhoperace, or call 1-866-48-4cure.  This event was set up by Lisa Kaminsky 12 years ago, as a tribute her brother who passed on, at UCLA of a brain tumor.  This is a 501(c)3, so all donations will be deductible to the fullest extent of IRS law.  If you would like to make a donation, and live out of the area, you can mail a check to The Brad Kaminsky Foundation/ Re:Heroes of Hope for Research,   20227 Catlett Place, Asburn, Va., 20147.


I hope to see so many of you on 11/17/19 and if you can’t make, a few bucks makes me smile!  Sorry for a little bit of the language above, but I guess that I got a bit of excitement going on!  Think about this, give a thanks for this wonderful day, and give a personal  feel for someone’s trouble, and just smile for them, you’ll get your love back.


You, also, can be a HERO!




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A LOT OF NOISE…(or little)

Radio’s, T.V’s, coffee grinder’s, airport’s and planes, traffic, of course CELL PHONES (!), people, pets, shake machines, construction equipment, vacuum cleaners, outside noise, people talking on cell phones with speaker’s on, disgusting news(on all levels), people crying on at something that doesn’t go their way, protesters with no protest; how long do you want me to go on, (or should I have stopped after 2???)?

Every day we all deal with these, and there is something we can do; go on the road, visit friends, camping, sitting in a hotel room, meditating, etc..,

I saw something that I think is wonderful:  It’s called “Before you speak, THINK”.






I guess I added that word, because I have observed people speaking with emotion, not dialogue.  We all have emotion, and we should be affected by some of that “noise” that’s out there, but if we can modify our responses, with regard to “THINK”, I think we’ll all have a little more peace to a situation, or to friends, or to strangers who just want to converse.

I had that in a situation last week; I visited a high school buddy in Phoenix.  I had my brother with me, and we stayed at his house, and in his back yard was  a great pool.  In their housing association, there also is NO street lamps!  Talk about silence, and darkness of night!  It was great, because so much of our conversation was about the past, (always is!), and about things that is our reality today, and I’m sure that none of us thought about that word ‘THINK”, but to tell you the truth, we all were observing it, and respecting it.  It was great, and real.  We all shared our thoughts, and after a few drinks, (we were high school friends, who wouldn’t show their “young” selves?), their were a lot of laughs when we didn’t have the same thought pattern.  How can that be so different from our everyday living?  Very confusing to me.  We did one night on the town, and way past my bedtime, but all of the other time was at the pool, having adult beverages, and laughing at each other, and it was so QUIET!  I guess that I’m used to noise, because I live near the airport, I live along a very busy street, construction throughout the neighborhood, but I’ll tell you, that silence was nice.  I used to be a very active camper, and backpacker.  To wake up in the morning, maybe before dawn, and to hear nothing but birds, streams, and wind blowing, THAT was what camping was all about.  To just admire what has been given to us, to everybody, is something that we can all appreciate.  I know, when we’re in the city, and we have all of that “NOISE”, what are we to do?  THINK.  Think about all of the positives in our lives.  I also know that ALL of us have a day, or days, when things just don’t go “right”, as it is said, but there are things that have happened to us previously, that put a smile on our faces, that put a little part of peace in our soul.  You don’t know how many times I’ve had to turn to that, to keep an open mind, so that I can THINK.  My spiritually wants to take over, and I let it.  I won’t try to be on a religious stage right now, but I do think that the majority of people believe in their version of a “higher power”, and mine is God, and Jesus Christ.  I know that I’m not alone, in my thinking, and to put my “bad days” into Glorious hands, that takes any bad day, into a day that is not stressful to me.  I can’t do stress, and that is an order from my Dr.  It (stress) can easily stimulate a seizure, and who wants that?  It sounds easy, I know, to say ” Don’t be so stressful”, but there is a way out of it, and to throw that positive thing that DID happen to all of us, into your head, and think about it numerous times during a day, and I hope you can trust me when I say, we can start to breath in a quiet place.

I also know that our world is a noisy world; lots of confusion, violence, bad tempers, etc… but there’s SO much wonderful things in our lives, we just have to recognize what is right in front of us.  So many people put that disgusting “noise” in their brains all day long, (since I don’t have MUCH of a brain, I can minimize that!),  so that their only sight is narrowed down to a slice of our world right in front of them, rather than opening up their mind, so that they will see, any peripheral vision, (for lack of better words),  and know that there is peace and quiet in their world, too.  Know that, just know that.  I say this, because of my medical history, which I wouldn’t call on anybody else to experience, I’ve had to put on myself, a “new” self.  A THINK self.  Know that whatever you say, it cannot be taken back, it’s “out there”.  So let’s try to be a little more careful in our lives, say what needs to be said, but in a dialogue, not from an emotion that needs to be shoved down my throat.  As I say this, people are wonderful, some just need a little word to help them out, THINK.

First things first, go visit old friends, speak stories with a lot of embellishment, (that’s all we did in Phoenix!), open your views to things given to us, and enjoy the quiet!


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My New Video Exercises

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